I'm on a spree today. I need to get my thoughts on this written down because I've been meaning to talk about it.
"I have no right to 'out' him," is commonly used when a person's sexuality is in question - specifically if there are rumors or speculation if a person is 'dating' their own sex. It is said that it is the person's right to choose a place & time, and to whom, to "come out of the closet."
Wouldn't that, in a healthy society and in a healthy morally straight mind, be a sign that same sex attraction may not be "right" in the first place, whether you strictly go for your own sex or you're bi?
It's like feeling awkward when dancing. If you feel awkward most likely you do look awkward. Or maybe something doesn't seem "right" and, indeed, it may not be "right." I'm going with 'feelings' here because people will justify any romantic/sexual relationship based on their feelings.
The initial "I feel different" should be a sign - not a positive one. The having to "come out" should be a sign that being attracted to your own sex, exclusively or not, that it most likely isn't healthy, but deviant (not in the 'rebellious' or 'cool' way).
It's like seeing dark clouds ahead when sailing and your skipper says "It's alright. We'll be fine. We'll stay out at sea; in fact we'll go directly into the storm."
"But captain, I have a feeling th - "
"Nah. You're wrong. All shall be fine."
Enter a white squall.
Many will say that the reason people of non straight sexual orientation need to "come out" is because they are being sexual oppressed based on society's bigoted norms. I don't believe that's entirely accurate. People say there are laws banning homosexuals from work (BSA doesn't count), but not even the media, of all the institutions, picked up on any firing because a person was a homosexual. You know what was picked up by the media? The Matthew Shepard case which was deemed false in its convictions that the young man was killed due to his sexuality. He meddled in drug and gay scene in his hometown where he eventually met his killer. How about that waitress not being tipped because she was a lesbian - the customers leaving a hurtful note as a "tip"? False. She made the story up.
The only thing, currently, that is actually discriminating against those who are attracted to their own sex, is traditional marriage. In fact, not even. If the state hasn't already allowed same-sex "marriage", the "bigoted" way of marriage has one requirement: The consent must be between a man and a woman. There is no mention on whether the two parties need to in love (they could lie about it) or to be straight. Either the man and/or woman could be bi, or both could be bi, or one of the parties be a homosexual and the other bi, or one straight and the other gay. You get it. One man & one woman. Yiou can "have fun" with the sexualities and mix and match.
Despite same-sex "marriage" being made into law, state by state, there still seems to be indignation from those who advocate for LGBT "rights." In probably the most ethnically diverse and socially liberal state, California, there still seems the need for people to "come out" of the closet. There are award banquets for LGBT "rights" advocates and those who are straight are dubbed "allies", or otherwise known as "A" in the now ever expanding LGBTAQWhatever alphabet.
We then have "confessions" by people who say that all their gay friends are the most happiest people they know. Well isn't that convenient. Here's my confession: Most of the gays I know are either insecure about their sexuality and feel like victims (even though they were never actually bullied because of their sexuality). Right across my fraternity meeting there was a "support" group for LGBT kids. I only know two homosexuals who I'd say were comfortable with their sexuality: The president of my fraternity and one of my roommates.
One can argue that, like poor blacks, the LGBT are the way they are (besides "being born that way") is because of oppression and, as mentioned before, bigoted societal norms.
I'll agree that the LGBT aren't anywhere near mainstream (though slowly becoming mainstream) and that, naturally, a male & female relationship is the norm. That's the way most LGBT kids & adults were raised in. How did you come into existence?
"My mom & dad had sex and then nine months later, after my mom decided to not abort me, I was born."
Ain't rocket science.
Now take this situation:
"My mom & mom (or dad & dad) decided they wanted to 'have' kids together. My biological mother is from India. It was the cheapest surrogate they could find. My 'brother' is actually from my (other) dad's previous relationship with a woman. They split time with each other."
If being bisexual or homosexual is "totally normal" then there would be any need to "come out." Right? That non-straight person wouldn't feel all insecure. They'd just 'be.' But that's not reality. How many homosexuals and bis, when they were fully aware of their attraction, thought "No big deal. I'm so asking Jimmy out tonight. He looks totally hot in his shorts. Margaret better not steal him away from me!" Probably very few.
One thing's for sure: Whether it's 2 or 5%, or 10%, or any number between, those who fall under any LGBT letter are a minority. Their attractions are deviant from the rest of the 90%. This isn't "You're in the minority with your views, GRA." That might me so, but views can be changed - be it for gay "rights" or against such a fictitious concept.
All the broken hearts in the world still beat/
Let's not make it harder than it has to be/
Ohh, it's all the same thing/
Girls chase boys chase girls/
- Ingrid Michaelson, "Girls Chase Boys"
(The music video was a bit weird and one could mistake it for pro-gay "rights" - which, if one watched it, wasn't about gay "rights.")
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